I'm not going to lie, I'm a tabloid junkie. Would never buy the stuff, but it's seriously a guilty pleasure. So as I'm doing my daily view of e-online.com, I come across this:
Rihanna and Chris Brown Battle It Out Via Music Video
Chris Brown and Rihanna, the now famous incident. He's the new Ike Turner, and she's supposedly moving on, with a new album.
What caught my attention were the two new music videos released by each of them. The article above points out the imagery and meaning behind the videos. Out of curiosity and time to kill on a Sunday morning, I decided to check them out.
Here is the link to the Rihanna video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MCFpn1jVEYY
and the Chris Brown one:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PHLkDiyvFoI
What struck me as I watched both of them was how obviously DIFFERENT they were. Rihanna's video is full of angst, pain, blood, and scenes of her either bleeding or getting shot. Sure she's an artist and this is media ( or her just selling records) but I couldn't help but be amazed (not in a good way) with Brown's showing. His video is full of hope, and uplifting, with its "baby we can make it, baby I miss you and love you" theme.
I need a moment to express my sense of...disgust. This guy is so full of himself, and I must say, that this is so TYPICAL of how batterers are. It doesn't matter that he's famous, or trying to be the "good guy"now. Both displays are so blatant to show what the roots of Domestic Violence are. It is about an individual having power and using that power to control, subjugate and humiliate their partner. The time needed to heal from being hurt by the one you love the most is devastating and it can take years to recover from the emotional and psychological scars. For the abuser, from my experience I have seen NOTHING. They get away scotch free, they are free. In their minds there is no need to recover. They just move on, free as a bird. Indeed, in his video, there he is, singing on top of buildings, dancing with a smile (yes baby, I have hope for us!).
Can you see the hope in her video? Why isn't he shooting himself bloody? Honestly, the dude is only sorry that everyone sees him as a bad guy, because the public is making him feel bad, not because of what he did to her.
The saddest part though, is its not just him, he is only an sample of a wider disease. There are so many others like him who are part of this cycle of violence. They don't see and refuse to see the depth of the pain they cause in another human being.
He wants his baby back, but he's not sorry, he's just sorry that his image has been ruined.
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Yea, that's a good point. I really hope though, truly, that there is a delayed reaction for the abuser...something that comes back to haunt them, something that slaps them across the face that serves as an accumulation of all the suppressed years they should have repented but didn't. I really hope it's true.
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